Drinks That Help Dating

I’ve talked about the ‘Joys of Dating’ in 2009 before, but as I go along ‘getting my feet wet’ there are things I’m finding out that I never knew when I was sitting at home staring at ‘Dancing With the Stars’ or ‘American Idol.’
One of the interesting tidbits I came across was when I was out with this friend of mine. We’d had dinner and decided to head to the bar for a drink or two before heading back to our respective lives. We were having our usual great time, so neither of us were in any hurry to rush off. I’ve known her – my friend – for a long time and we share a lot of the same background and views on life which makes talking and ‘hanging out’ a great time. We have one of those relationships that’s fun, humorous, tender, understanding, good friends… and hot with a sexual tension running under the surface all at the same time. If everyone doesn’t have one of those kinds of friends – they need one.
When we got to the bar we asked the waitress what was good. She recommended a, “Tie Me To The Bedpost.” My friend and I looked at each other. I know SHE turned twelve shades of red and I can only imagine I did, too. The waitress went on to explain that if that one was lacking some kind of liquor we were looking for in a drink there was always a, “F…#&*! Me Blue.” (I don’t think I have to be any more explicit with the name than that.) Of course, the waitress said the name like it was an everyday drink, which added to the humor the two of US had with the drink’s name. My friend and I talked it over – a little sheepishly – and decided we’d have one of each. To us, they just seemed to go together.
The drinks themselves were not all that great, but the names have stuck with my friend and I and been the butt of some great ‘one-liners’ ever since. We figured that if you had enough of the two of them, you might actually end up being tied to a bedpost and having sex until you’re blue… whatever that means. But, it makes US giggle every time we mention it.
And then there’s the thought of TRYING it with this same friend about whom I have fantasies I can’t even START putting down in a blog!!
So, for those of you out there who are trying to get into the dating scene and you have NO idea how to get around to the next step… the sexual relations part of your relationship… you might want to wander into a bar and ask for EITHER of those drinks. Trust me, they’ll start a conversation that might lead to some really INTERESTING times!!! If nothing else, you’ll have some great one-liners to share – as I do with MY friend – about some really unusual drinks.

Dating For The Wise

There’s a HUGE difference in the things old…er… mature people talk about on dates today compared to what we used to talk about when we were young.
Let me explain a little of this to you…
Let’s start with young people and what goes on when they date – we’ll keep our minds out of the gutter here. Youngsters talk about their likes and dislikes (predictable), whether their Facebook rocks, how many times they’ve been on YouTube, how many kids they’d like to have, when they plan to finish school, IF they plan to finish school and what they want to do when/if they graduate, how soon they’re looking at getting married, do they want to have a condo or a house, are animals part of the equation… and on and on. We all know the routine because we’ve all been there - done that. That’s how we got to HERE and how many of our kids got here, too.
All that is SOOOO cute it makes you want to walk over to young couples in love and slap them up side their heads. Hey, I wish someone had done that to ME years ago. Would I have listened?? Who knows?? But I might have… You could tell them what’s going to happen to them, but they won’t listen. They’re in LUUUUUUUV.
Then there’s the dating for the… mature. Call us… The Wise.
This is when it starts to get interesting.
There are a lot of categories for us. Most of us are ‘Divorced.’ There’s a pretty sizeable chunk that are ‘Widowed.’ There are very few of us who are ‘Never Married’ by the time they get to be The Wise. HOW they got to be ‘Never Married’ I have no idea – it seems pretty magical to ME – but maybe they just got lucky and never fell through the traps that got the rest of us. They seem to have the least amount of baggage, but they also qualify everything they say with ‘I’ve never had this experience, but it seems to me…’ Actually, those of you who fall into that category should be out there coaching the rest of us on how to do it!!!
When we of The Wise date we talk about totally different things than when we were young. We actually HAVE kids, so we don’t have to talk about having them – most of us cringe at the thought of having more kids. We have already accomplished much of what we are going to do with our lives, even if it’s not what we planned when we were young and stupid. Marriage??? Do you know how many women now laugh at that idea?? That falls under ‘been there – done that – and don’t want to do it again.’ Are we planning to have a family again?? No. Then what’s the point of killing a relationship or putting constraints on us that come with the expectations of marriage?? Most of us are looking for companions to do things with as we get older, not someone to smother us or put us back into the same problems we had prior to getting divorced. We’re to the point where we are getting the kids out of the nest and are ready to enjoy some of life. Life has changed for all of us and we’re looking for people who want to have life and love without getting back into the constraints that drove us all insane for so many years. Welcome to the world of ‘Dating for The Wise.’

Dating For Old People

Okay…
There has to be a limit to how much of this INSANITY a man can take.
I’m out here on the “Dating Scene” in Atlanta again. With all the other insanity that goes with getting old, dating is NOT one I wanted to do. What am I supposed to do go into a bar and start using my best pick-up lines? “Hey, baby, what’s YOUR sign?”
The answer is usually, “Stop.”
I don’t know if that means their sign is a ‘stop sign’ or if that line is so old you can’t see the line for the layers of dust on it so I just need to stop. Either way it’s not good from MY standpoint.
The best thing for ME to do, probably, is to forget about it. Do I REALLY want to go through meeting someone new again? Do I REALLY want to learn a whole new group of people? Do I REALLY want to find out all the little quirks about a woman that I’ll either find a way to live with or find I NEED to walk away from. And how many times can I do THAT?? I’m not one of those people who LOVES the ‘beginning’ of relationships and enjoys going from person to person to keep that ‘newness’ alive.
I like to be WITH someone.
Great. So I either go through the beginning over and over until that right person comes along, or I stay alone…. Great… Alone is looking better and better all the time...