There’s a HUGE difference in the things old…er… mature people talk about on dates today compared to what we used to talk about when we were young.
Let me explain a little of this to you…
Let’s start with young people and what goes on when they date – we’ll keep our minds out of the gutter here. Youngsters talk about their likes and dislikes (predictable), whether their Facebook rocks, how many times they’ve been on YouTube, how many kids they’d like to have, when they plan to finish school, IF they plan to finish school and what they want to do when/if they graduate, how soon they’re looking at getting married, do they want to have a condo or a house, are animals part of the equation… and on and on. We all know the routine because we’ve all been there - done that. That’s how we got to HERE and how many of our kids got here, too.
All that is SOOOO cute it makes you want to walk over to young couples in love and slap them up side their heads. Hey, I wish someone had done that to ME years ago. Would I have listened?? Who knows?? But I might have… You could tell them what’s going to happen to them, but they won’t listen. They’re in LUUUUUUUV.
Then there’s the dating for the… mature. Call us… The Wise.
This is when it starts to get interesting.
There are a lot of categories for us. Most of us are ‘Divorced.’ There’s a pretty sizeable chunk that are ‘Widowed.’ There are very few of us who are ‘Never Married’ by the time they get to be The Wise. HOW they got to be ‘Never Married’ I have no idea – it seems pretty magical to ME – but maybe they just got lucky and never fell through the traps that got the rest of us. They seem to have the least amount of baggage, but they also qualify everything they say with ‘I’ve never had this experience, but it seems to me…’ Actually, those of you who fall into that category should be out there coaching the rest of us on how to do it!!!
When we of The Wise date we talk about totally different things than when we were young. We actually HAVE kids, so we don’t have to talk about having them – most of us cringe at the thought of having more kids. We have already accomplished much of what we are going to do with our lives, even if it’s not what we planned when we were young and stupid. Marriage??? Do you know how many women now laugh at that idea?? That falls under ‘been there – done that – and don’t want to do it again.’ Are we planning to have a family again?? No. Then what’s the point of killing a relationship or putting constraints on us that come with the expectations of marriage?? Most of us are looking for companions to do things with as we get older, not someone to smother us or put us back into the same problems we had prior to getting divorced. We’re to the point where we are getting the kids out of the nest and are ready to enjoy some of life. Life has changed for all of us and we’re looking for people who want to have life and love without getting back into the constraints that drove us all insane for so many years. Welcome to the world of ‘Dating for The Wise.’
Let me explain a little of this to you…
Let’s start with young people and what goes on when they date – we’ll keep our minds out of the gutter here. Youngsters talk about their likes and dislikes (predictable), whether their Facebook rocks, how many times they’ve been on YouTube, how many kids they’d like to have, when they plan to finish school, IF they plan to finish school and what they want to do when/if they graduate, how soon they’re looking at getting married, do they want to have a condo or a house, are animals part of the equation… and on and on. We all know the routine because we’ve all been there - done that. That’s how we got to HERE and how many of our kids got here, too.
All that is SOOOO cute it makes you want to walk over to young couples in love and slap them up side their heads. Hey, I wish someone had done that to ME years ago. Would I have listened?? Who knows?? But I might have… You could tell them what’s going to happen to them, but they won’t listen. They’re in LUUUUUUUV.
Then there’s the dating for the… mature. Call us… The Wise.
This is when it starts to get interesting.
There are a lot of categories for us. Most of us are ‘Divorced.’ There’s a pretty sizeable chunk that are ‘Widowed.’ There are very few of us who are ‘Never Married’ by the time they get to be The Wise. HOW they got to be ‘Never Married’ I have no idea – it seems pretty magical to ME – but maybe they just got lucky and never fell through the traps that got the rest of us. They seem to have the least amount of baggage, but they also qualify everything they say with ‘I’ve never had this experience, but it seems to me…’ Actually, those of you who fall into that category should be out there coaching the rest of us on how to do it!!!
When we of The Wise date we talk about totally different things than when we were young. We actually HAVE kids, so we don’t have to talk about having them – most of us cringe at the thought of having more kids. We have already accomplished much of what we are going to do with our lives, even if it’s not what we planned when we were young and stupid. Marriage??? Do you know how many women now laugh at that idea?? That falls under ‘been there – done that – and don’t want to do it again.’ Are we planning to have a family again?? No. Then what’s the point of killing a relationship or putting constraints on us that come with the expectations of marriage?? Most of us are looking for companions to do things with as we get older, not someone to smother us or put us back into the same problems we had prior to getting divorced. We’re to the point where we are getting the kids out of the nest and are ready to enjoy some of life. Life has changed for all of us and we’re looking for people who want to have life and love without getting back into the constraints that drove us all insane for so many years. Welcome to the world of ‘Dating for The Wise.’
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